Warning: This one is of a political nature.
I have noticed at least one politician who brings up abortions whenever his approval ratings drop. The word “abortion” seems to bring an instant knee-jerk reaction from people – they immediately fall into lock-step behind him. All the other things that need attention – global warming, mass shootings, poverty, homelessness, and national security – are put aside. People seem willing to throw out the Constitution and the well-being of their fellow citizens for this one issue alone.
I’ve never had an abortion. I’ve never been in a situation where I might have to make that choice: Both my pregnancies were planned; The pregnancies didn’t endanger my health or life; The sons were seen to be thriving and whole in the womb. My pregnancies were full of joyful anticipation. I could see my sons moving around on the screen – could see their little hands and feet moving and their hearts beating – and they were both very real to me. I can understand the feelings anti-choice people have about abortion, and I can relate to those feelings.
But I have empathy, too, for women who might find themselves in circumstances different than mine – I can imagine the gut-wrenching despair and heartache a woman might feel if she found herself in a position where she had to make this choice. I have had friends who had to make this choice for themselves and none of them celebrated abortions – there wasn’t wild rejoicing and laughter and applause. None of them approached this choice without deep reflection and thought. For each of them it was a somber, serious, sorrowful time in their lives.
No one should view another woman’s pregnancy cavalierly – like pregnancy and childbirth are just small blips in a woman’s life. Women die from pregnancies. Women die from childbirth. And to force a woman to go through a pregnancy that might endanger her health, or cause her death, is unthinkable to me. To force any woman to go through a pregnancy without consideration for her feelings and needs is just wrong. It’s not my place – or anyone else’s – to take control of another woman’s body and choose how it’s going to be used. Her body doesn’t belong to me, or to you.
Yeah, I admit I have sometimes found myself making judgments on women who have had multiple abortions, or who choose to have an abortion rather than give up their dream for a new car or a trip to the Bahamas or whatever. But I’m not proud of that. When we, as a society, start trying to add certain restrictions about who can get an abortion and who can’t and for what reasons, we’re making the right to get an abortion a subjective thing, rather than a medical procedure. Who am I to decide what reasons are good enough to allow a woman to have an abortion, and what reasons are not? All women should have the right to have control over their own bodies. And my personal biases – and yours – shouldn’t enter into the discussion.
Should there be laws that protect a sentient life from harm? Absolutely! And there are laws that do this. No state allows for murder. No state allows for infanticide. Any claims to the contrary are wrong.
Do I post this? Or do I not?
Okay, here goes..
I am with you 100% on this topic, on everything that you said. Thank you for posting such an articulate statement.Laura Puryear-Giardullo
Thank you for taking the time to read this post, Laura!
This is a thoughtful post on a difficult subject. It’s not appropriate for me to judge what capable others who are not my legal wards or responsibility should or should not do, since I don’t know their lives and reasons–and I even say that as a body empath who DOES literally feel what happens in people’s bodies.
Wow! Thank you, Donnalee!
Thank you so much, Karen, for this thoughtful & compassionate post. I also agree that all women should have control over their own bodies. It is very insensitive to judge women who have to make this difficult decision. Also, using abortion as a platform for getting votes is very troubling. Thank you for hitting the “send” button!
Whew! Thank YOU, Carol! This is one of those posts that I wasn’t sure about…
Thank you, I’ve posted something about abortions a couple of days ago as well, so I’ve been looking for different takes and views. And all of those “pro-life” articles where a woman’s choice and freedom is completely disregarded for the potential and idea of a human being… well! No woman takes this choice lightly and our societies are not set up to help and support single mums at all. If you face the potential of a sick baby even… it really isn’t simple, but what is clear to me is this: If a woman doesn’t have a choice, she’s not free and she is not equal.