Dad Update

July 27, 2019

I got word that Daddy had a difficult night. Went over to his home to give him a quick hug and tell him I love him. He smiled at me when he realized I was there and mumbled something about the “holiday weekend.” I kissed his forehead and told him I loved him, and he told me he loved me. And then I got up to leave. Made it all the way to the stairs before I stopped. Turned. Went back. Pulled up a chair next to his bed and sat in it. It had occurred to me that there may come a time soon when I will wish I could be with Daddy for even one more minute.

I took Dad’s hand and squeezed it. He squeezed back. I squeezed his hand twice. He squeezed my hand twice. We just sat there holding hands for about ten minutes – watching the old black and white movie on his TV together. I sang some hymns “to” him – but… I knew he couldn’t hear what I was singing – I was really singing the hymns to myself as I held his hand –

“In heav’nly love abiding,
No change my heart shall fear;
And safe is such confiding,
For nothing changes here.
The storm may roar without me,
My heart may low be laid,
But Love is round about me,
And can I be dismayed?”
(words by Anna Waring)

Tears started running out of my eyes and down my face. I sniffled and wiped them away.

When I finally felt it was time to go and let Dad rest I leaned over to tell him good-bye. Daddy said, “Happy Fourth of July!” And I thanked him.
Karen: I love you, Daddy.
Dad: I love you, Karen.

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8 thoughts on “Dad Update

  1. Powerful is the only word I can use for this post. I have been reading everthing you write for so long now I lost tract. One thing I can see is that you flirt with something beyond being a good writer and storyteller. There is something extraordinary there , just below the surface that pops up now and then and I believe it is coming out in full force soon. By the way, I love this hymn, I was always fascinated with the line “nothing changes here” .My favorite hymn though is hymn 314 “Sow in the morn thy seed” . I can remember when I was in my early 20’s and I was attending the magnificent structure that is The First Church of Christ Scientist Atlanta, with its huge congregation and we sang hymn 314 and my whole body felt electrified and I choked up , I will never forget it. Take care, love, Rick

    • Hello Karen, I just got home and was looking for a new post from you and I saw that you had not replied to my comment, which is something you always do, and I was a little worried that things might not be going well. Fear is a bad emotion I know. Around here, in the Deep South, it is very common to tell your friends who are facing something that you will be praying for them. Even though I am very Southern ( I am descended from some of the very first Europeans who ever lived in the South East) my religion , even though Christian Science has been part of the Southern landscape since the late 1800’s , it is still different from typical Southern Religion and I am at a loss at times what to say to people who are going through a crisis or difficult time. I know that pleading with God to do something is not truth. So I still tell them that I am praying for them and then I just think about what Mrs Eddy said about the way to heal is to just love. So I try to do that. You would think after all this time I would better understand better how to do it.. So I am just thinking loving thoughts about you and your Dad and your family and thinking about perfection and Life. Love, Rick

      • Oh my goodness! You are a treasure of a human being, Rick! Thank you so much for sending those loving thoughts! I feel them! Dad is still with us – although he was put back on hospice today. I’m becoming very conscious about every moment I have with him here. Sending you a mental hug – can you feel it? ❤ Karen

      • I just want you to know that you have friends you have never met. I think you know that already. I will be supporting you. Your new post brought a flood of emotions for me . I remember the same things you do, just in a different location. Just today, I was doing some work from home and I had the TV on in the background and Bewitched was on, before that it was I Dream of Jeanie. I have to admit though that my favorite show from when I was a kid was Lost in Space! Lol …Much Love to you and yours always, Rick

  2. Rick really spoke my feelings as well, Karen. So many of us are walking alongside you during this loving, sad & challenging time on this journey with your Dad. You have hundreds of arms supporting you. ❤️

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