My ego gets pulled into the false narratives – wanting to set the record straight – who started what and who did it first and who is the most violent and who is the worst.
And my ego’s input feeds the beast, feeds the narrative, feeds the hate-feast. It becomes a finger-pointing frenzy of sleights and wrongs and fear, with everyone only hearing what they want to hear.
I think I’ll get off of this crazy ride. I think I’ll focus on what’s true. I think I’ll spend my time and energy in loving you and you and YOU.
feeling rejected, dejected, jettisoned and ejected and it occurs to me that this is a choice I am making and Father-Mother Love says, “I love you. You are Mine. Forever and always, beyond time. I will never reject you. I made you for Me. Let go of little ego, let go and just be. You have more important things to do than to spend your time appeasing a human ego no part of Me or mine.” -Karen Molenaar Terrell
Fretting and frittering my day away trying to keep my little ego fed and coddled worrying about stuff that doesn’t matter one jot in the grand scheme of things searching for happiness in all the wrong places and my thoughts suddenly stop spinning and settle softly I hear Love’s voice: “My precious child. You are loved without end.” I don’t need to wait for Love I don’t need to work for Love I don’t need to earn Love Love is always here, always mine Forever and ever Amen. -Karen Molenaar Terrell
(Reworked from a post originally published in 2014.) I’ve never seen The Exorcist, but I have seen that scene with the pea soup and the spinning head – and lately I’ve seemed to encounter a lot of what I would put in the “pea soup and spinning head” category. There have been times, recently, when personalities have seemed to spin themselves out of alignment with the individuals they really are, spewing out all kinds of hell – anger, frustration, jealousy, fear, revenge, hatred, finger-pointing. And I’m embarrassed to say that on at least a couple occasions recently I myself was the spewer – feeling really angry and hurt about someone I felt had treated me unfairly.
It none of it felt good.
But then I came across yet another spewing-spinner on a discussion board, and found myself just stepping back and kind of observing in interested fascination as the pea soup flew and the vitriol sprayed. The pea soup and vitriol had been intended for me, but they were so over-the-top and spewed so high in the air that it simply erupted above the spewer’s head and ended up landing back on her. It didn’t touch me at all. And, standing there on the outside of the mess, it became really clear to me that the spinning-spewing personality was not at all the real individuality of my fellow poster. It was obvious that what I had just witnessed was nothing but a spinning-spewing counterfeit of the real man and woman, made in God’s likeness – made in the likeness of Love. And it also became clear to me that I had no desire or need to spend my time engaged in conversation with a counterfeit. I was able to step back and move on and find other interesting dialogues that better served me. I didn’t give the counterfeit the power to push me OUT of a space where I belonged, and nor did I give the counterfeit the power to pull me INTO a space where I didn’t belong. I didn’t have to react or respond to the counterfeit at all.
This encounter with the counterfeit poster helped me come to terms with my feelings of anger and wish for vengeance towards the personality who had treated me so poorly in the past. I had to recognize that the real man is the child of God – that God loves him no less than he loves me – and that God is instructing him, and leading him down his own path in life, with its own lessons waiting for him. And none of that is any of my business.
My business is keeping watch on my own thoughts and actions. Mary Baker Eddy writes, “Christian Science commands man to master the propensities, – to hold hatred in abeyance with kindness, to conquer lust with chastity, revenge with charity, and to overcome deceit with honesty. Choke these errors in their early stages, if you would not cherish an army of conspirators against health, happiness, and success.”
As Paul says, we all must work out our “own salvation.” It’s rewarding work. It’s satisfying work. And it’s also enough work to fill my moments and my days for eternity. Who has time to worry about working out someone ELSE’s flaws and foibles, when I have enough of my own to worry about?
How freeing it is to be able to see my own pettiness, insecurities, vanity – helping me forgive others their egos in uncovering my own, helping me let go of the burden of trying to look perfect. -Karen Molenaar Terrell
experienced navigator moves with brave caution – ready to move when conscience says to go, but listening for the echos that warn of looming ego -Karen Molenaar Terrell
What is this choice I’m making? Why this stubborn resistance when I know I can reach out to Love and find her right now, right here? What keeps me from doing that? What keeps me from drawing near to my Mother-Father – to what’s dear to me?
Nothing.
Nothing can separate me from Love – not stubborn resistance or mortal mind’s push and shove or incessant insistence of its own power and ego.
Love is here, I know – tenderly enfolding me in Her arms even as I type and no foe – neither a mortal life, nor death; nor what’s now, nor what’s ahead – not what’s past, nor what I dread – nor what’s high or in the deepest bed; neither the foot, nor the head; nor feeling a lack of food, or overfed; neither what follows, nor what led; neither what’s read, or said – alpha or zed – separates me from the All that is Good and mine to claim right now. -Karen Molenaar Terrell
For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. -Romans 8:38-39
There are nobler things than “shows of strength,” stronger things than greed, more worthy things than ego, better things to feed. There’s Love and Truth and Life itself – all-power, always beautiful, always here. Greed and ego don’t have a chance against the Love that we draw near. -Karen Molenaar Terrell
“Draw nigh to Love and love will draw nigh to you.” -James 4:8
Enveloped in the natural beauty of autumn on Mount Rainier. Two days of peace, immersed in the sounds and smells of The Mountain – waterfalls and birds and glaciers and hemlock and heather.
And then we’re leaving The Mountain – driving through traffic and diesel fumes on the freeway – past metal warehouses and box stores and billboards advertising cars and drugs and hamburgers.
And there’s Rainier – rising above the concrete and car dealerships and rusty storage units, and I feel sad that humanity seems so heedless of her beauty – so unappreciative – almost disrespectful in the ugliness it’s built in front of her.
Two hours from The Mountain, I look back and get one last glimpse – she’s still there – still with me – majestic in the distance – untouched by the fuss and folderol, the ego and greed of human-kind.
And as I think about this it occurs to me that this is true of everything that’s real, isn’t it? All the ugly and fuss that ego builds in front of our identities can’t destroy our real selves – can’t destroy what we really are:
The manifestations and expressions of Love. -Karen Molenaar Terrell
“Spiritual interpreted, rocks and mountains stand for solid and grand ideas.” -Mary Baker Eddy
Well, dang. I just found myself getting caught up in the endless loop again – that spinning hamster’s hoop again – that weird compulsion we humans have to prove we’re right – to send our little egos out to fight in a battle that no one will win.
Hurling opinions and catpulting “facts” believing that where our data lands will bring us fresh new fans And getting frustrated when it doesn’t work out quite the way we planned.
Because that’s not how Love works! Love works in kindness – in the ties of caring that bind us. Love brings us together for each other – to help and hold and heal and to embrace what’s lasting and real. – Karen Molenaar Terrell
Adventures of the Madcap Christian Scientist 